10 Reasons Your Church is NOT Growing

Here are ten very possible reasons your church isn’t growing:

1. You’re In Conflict

Ever been in someone’s home as a guest only to have your hosts start to argue with each other? It doesn’t happen that often, but the few times it’s happened when I’ve been around have made me want to run out the door.

Why would church be any different? If you’re constantly bickering and arguing, why would any new people stay? It’s not that Christians shouldn’t have conflict, but we should be the best in the world at handling it. The New Testament is a virtual manual of conflict resolution, but so many of us prefer gossip, non-confrontation and dealing with anyone but the party involved. Growing churches handle conflict biblically, humbling and healthily.

2. You’re More In Love With The Past Than You Are With The Future.

This can be true of churches that are in love with tradition and churches that are have had some amazing days recently. When leaders become more in love with the past than they are with the future, the end is near. If your church is a museum to 1950 or even 2012, the likelihood of reaching the next generation diminishes with every passing day.

3. You’re Not That Awesome To Be Around.

Fake. Judgmental. Hypocritical. Angry. Narrow. Unthinking. Unkind. Those are adjectives often used to describe Christians, and sometimes they have their basis in truth. There are certain people who are energizing to be around. Unfortunately, too many Christians today don’t fit that description. Jesus was mesmerizing. Paul caused conflict for sure, but he had many deep relationships and incredible influence. The early church was known for compassion and generosity. If people truly don’t want to be around you, don’t let the reason be because you haven’t let Christ reshape your character or social skills.

4. You’re Focused On Yourself.

Too many churches are focused on their wants, preferences and perceived needs. They are self-focused organizations and self-focused people. It should be no surprise that outsiders never feel welcomed, valued or included. If you want to reach people, you can’t be self focused. After all, a life devoted to self ultimately leaves you alone.

5. You Think Culture Is The Enemy.

If all you ever are is angry at the culture around us, how are you going to reach people in that culture? Christians who consistently expect non-Christians to act like Christians baffle me (I wrote about that here.) If you treat your unchurched neighbour like an enemy, why would he ever want to be your friend?

6. You’re Afraid To Risk What Is For The Sake Of What Might Be.

Let’s face it, at least you’ve got something going for you. You’re paying the bills. You at least have X amount of people. And if you’ve had any modicum of success recently, you’re going to be hesitant to risk what is for what could be. The greatest enemy of your future success is your current success. When you’re perpetually afraid to risk what is for the sake of what might be, you might as well cue the funeral music now.

7. You Can’t Make A Decision.

Governance will become a major issue for future churches. When your decision making is rooted in complex bureaucracy or congregational approval for every major change, it makes decision making difficult and courageous change almost impossible. To get a glimpse of the kind of constitutional set up effective churches will need in the future, don’t miss Jeff Brodie’s awesome post on what every church constitution needs.

8. You Talk More Than You Act.

Most church leaders love to think and love to debate issues. Effective leaders add one more component. They act. Most church leaders I know overthink and underact. If you acted on even a few more of your good ideas, you could possible be twice as effective in a very short time frame.

9. You Don’t Think There’s Anything Wrong With Your Church.

I still run into a surprising amount of leaders and church members who love their church but can’t figure out why anyone else does. Well, those churches are on their way to soon having not much more than a small club for the already convinced.

10. You’re More Focused On Growth Than You Are On God.

Some leaders get so jacked up about growth that they forget it’s about God and his mission. This is just a danger every motivated leader needs to keep in mind. We’re leading people to Jesus, not to ourselves or our awesome church. Keeping the focus on Christ ensure genuine life-change happens and lasts.

These are 10 things I see holding our churches back.

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17 Responses to 10 Reasons Your Church is NOT Growing

  1. Brian Crisp June 24, 2017 at 2:18 pm #

    Good article and I agree

  2. Troy Day June 25, 2017 at 7:50 am #

    Which do you think is the worst? I wanna hear from Daniel Blaylock too HNis church seems to be doing some good church growth strategies too

  3. Brian Crisp June 25, 2017 at 7:53 am #

    1,2,4 are the worst

  4. Troy Day June 25, 2017 at 7:58 am #

    #10 is the bummer if you ask me
    #2 is important for keeping our identity and legacy

    #1 is bad especially when in conflict and ignoring it
    #4 some 80% of churches we study are focused on themselves especially financial. Dont know if there is an easy solution for that. Comes to identity, past and legacy as well

    GOT to Love #3 “You’re Not That Awesome To Be Around” Link Hudson What would be your contribution to this from your PhD training in economix and international trade? How do we turn churches from being focused on themselves financially?

  5. Link Hudson June 25, 2017 at 8:33 am #

    Our identity and legacy should be about Christ and being part of the body of Christ.

  6. Daniel Blaylock June 25, 2017 at 8:33 am #

    I think #4 and #9 (9 is a symptom of 4). I listed two sets of churches–one that everyone knows about in our community because of their service to those outside their local church and another list of churches we drive past every day but nobody seems to ever hear from or even get invited to. I asked our leaders, “Which list are we on in this town? How do we get on/stay on the first list?”

  7. Troy Day July 21, 2017 at 6:39 pm #

    #1 You’re In Conflict

  8. Troy Day July 26, 2018 at 8:45 am #

    You refuse to take migrants in? Daniel Rushing

  9. Troy Day January 24, 2019 at 5:32 pm #

    seems NOT to be working too good under Trump’s tax reform Nelson Banuchi Jim Price

  10. Nora Neel-Toney January 25, 2019 at 3:35 pm #

    Occasionally I visit a local Baptist Church and there is more of the Holy Spirit and anointing there in some of the Pentecostal churches I’ve been to.

  11. Troy Day January 26, 2019 at 4:06 am #

    here;s a fellow bapticostal Link Hudson

    • Nora Neel-Toney January 26, 2019 at 8:34 am #

      Troy Day I’m not Baptist. I’m Pentecostal

    • Troy Day January 26, 2019 at 10:27 am #

      I cant remember the last time I visited baptist church

  12. Troy Day August 7, 2019 at 8:46 pm #

    Michael Ellis Carter Jr. 1. You’re In Conflict about being in a conflict

    • Michael Ellis Carter Jr. August 7, 2019 at 10:14 pm #

      Troy Day the article makes points that can be found in most churches

    • Troy Day August 8, 2019 at 5:52 am #

      Michael Ellis Carter Jr. hence the problems? Consider what a surprise guest member we will call BOB wrote as s comment

      #9, I stopped going to a church like 9, that I was a member of since the 80’s. They stopped Wednesday night service and Sunday School. For Sunday school they have coffee and donut hour, social club. But, they have lost 90% of the church.

  13. Bobbi August 7, 2019 at 11:35 pm #

    #9, I stopped going to a church like 9, that I was a member of since the 80’s. They stopped Wednesday night service and Sunday School. For Sunday school they have coffee and donut hour, social club. But, they have lost 90% of the church.

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